All my single ladies

Click on the title to bring you to a blog post from Modern Reject, a Christian blogger who is both a wife and a mom.

"You should read Modern Reject if you are a truth-seeking, no B.S., Jesus-loving ninja. Plain and simple. If you desire freedom, like me, yous should read. If you believe in being Spirit-led, not blindly-led, you should read." - Modern Reject

This post is about "Surrendering Your Desire for a Spouse", written by a single guy who is now not single anymore, but wrote this post when he was still single. He was struggling to come to terms with his singleness.

"What does it mean to surrender my desire for a wife?

• Does it mean I pretend I don’t have a desire for a future wife?
• Does it mean I stop talking to girls?
• Does it mean I date Jesus?

I don’t think it means any of those things.

Surrender means to cease resistance to an enemy or opponent and submit to their authority. The hardest part of surrendering, for me, is giving up control.

[...]This even applies to marriage. Think about it.

Marriage will require surrendering many of my personal desires for a time. But when I’m willing to surrender my own desires for the moment, my desires actually end up being met even more completely than I could have expected." - Darrell Vesterfelt

When you're done with this one, read some of the other posts on this blog! They're really good

Top 5 Lies Christians Believe
Free Sin Day
Confession: I didn't wait til marriage...
Who Has It Easier, Men or Women?
Introvert is NOT a Dirty Word
Surrendering Sucks

Relevant Magazine Article

I read this really insightful article in Relevant Magazine recently and I wanted to share it with you. It's about sex (gasp!!) specifically premarital sex (double gasp!) I hope it gives you a new perspective, like it did for me.

-P.

being like Jesus

I'd like to think I'm a pretty patient person in general.

What drives me funky is when people ask me a question/for advice...and they don't consider it. That is actually fine. It's only after when they ask me the same thing, over and over and we're just going around in circles. I don't know..maybe they just want to have someone to listen to them?

1) they are mainly guys, guys with low self-esteem

2) apparently i'm not a therapist

3) when they are non-christian, I have even less to say because we have a huge chunk that isn't in common

maybe it's my time to share the gospel with them?

but you know what's annoying?

You try to be a good reflection of Jesus, you care about people because you love them. But I as a girl will not go spending extra time talking to a guy about his esteem problems (that I cant even help him with). And also cause I don't want to lead him on.

So what am I supposed to do? Tell him to see a therapist? I did.

Tell him to hang out with his guy friends? I did, and he has few.

How am I supposed to act like Jesus when I have to tell someone to back off, cause I can't help him and I can't be some crutch he leans on?

"I can do all things through Him who gives me strength..."

"Take my dreams, come and give them wings

Lord with you there's nothing I cannot do"

These lyrics resonate really strongly in me. It reminds me that while I think I can do good things, God can do unbelievable things through me. While I can accomplish simple goals, my hopes and dreams are better to be put in God's hands and not in mine!

Never Grow Up...

I had this "I don't want to get older because i'm having such a great time now...i know i'll miss NOW so baaaaaaadly" phase.

But...

19 “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. 20 But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. 21 For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.

Matthew 6:19-21

I think I am waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too attached to my life on earth.

Martha

³⁸ As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. ³⁹ She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said. ⁴⁰ But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!”

⁴¹ “Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, ⁴² but few things are needed—or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.”

Luke 10: 38-42

I think I'm showing some Martha symptoms...please pray that I can wake up, and choose what is better, what cannot be taken away from me.

In God's Heart I am...

...special.

Too early?

hey ladies!

2 questions:

-When you are considering dating, should you consider whether you see yourself married to the person for the rest of your life? Is it too early? Especially if you're both Christian and you know that he'd be striving for that too and youre both approaching a "marriage age"?

-Also, what do you think about people "growing on you"? (you arent attracted to him right away...but as time passes you realise that he's alright!) Would you girls date someone hoping they'd grow on you cause he's a safe choice ie fits all your criteria but you just arent attracted to him for whatever reason?

Dontaa worry! I am not going through these situations! They have just been random annoying thoughts since ppl have been subtly telling me that i can now consider dating (thanks for the permission..! lol)

Do something about it.

Anthony J. D'Angelo, a photo by pleasenotepaper on Flickr.

Choosing to walk away...

"You're only [insert age here], you're still young"

What a patronizing thing to say. It may not always be the intention, but it's like passive-agressively telling someone that their feelings and problems aren't important. I don't personally get this a lot, but overhear it being said to other people all the time -- whether it's about school, work, dating, pimples, unicorns, or whatever. It's thinly-veiled politespeak for "you'll get over it" or "get off my lawn, lousy kids". Just rubs me the wrong way. Like sandpaper underwear.

I'm 19 right now. It's not a very big number (I am old enough to know how to count to 20). But still, it's the oldest I've ever been, you know?

Tim Be Told

please please listen to these two songs...

the first one, i was told was written because he had a disease that was going to take away his voice (correct me if Im wrong?)...and he was angry with God...but at the end he changes his mind and says that God is good

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f5ri6PdmVT8&feature=related

this second one...ugh made me cry when listening to it.

i really really detest with a passion the idea of rape...and child soldiers....all this injustice i hate it so so much.

sometimes i ask God why He would put me in such a messed up world where there is so much pain and injustice

i realise that i am here for a reason..that i am not just born to die. There must be something that i can, maybe little, but still something...anyway, please listen to it!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y8b9pEIYlAA&feature=related

Blessings - Laura Story

'Cause what if your blessings come through raindrops
What if Your healing comes through tears
What if a thousand sleepless nights are what it takes to know You're near
What if trials of this life are Your mercies in disguise

speaks for itself

I was feeling unfulfilled...

So

So much

So much love

So much

So...

Why do I feel so empty?

Working, doing, all the time

Day planner filled from Sunday to Sunday.

It's not like it's just for money

It's not like it's just for fame

It's not like it's just for me

But... Why do I feel so empty?

I have all I need:

Family. Friends. A heavenly Father.

Food. Fellowship. Fuel.

Fine. Why do I feel so empty?

I forgot what I am here to do

I forgot what I was made to do

I forgot who I was made to love

I forgot who I am here to love

But now I remember

I still feel empty, but I am being filled

I can't wait to overflow.

Holla girls

Hey girls, how are you doing? Summer school? Summer jobs? Summer internships?


there should be more people contributing to the blogg! :)

Sigh no more.

Untitled, a photo by angie anne on Flickr.

Proverbs 3: 5-6

One of my favourite childhood Bible songs. Enjoy!

Panic attack

Let me tell you all a true story:

One summer I tried to pile too much on my plate: Working part-time in retail, working part-time as a TA in my university, and taking 3 online summer classes. And that's all in addition to having a social life, going to church, and having at least a little bit of a summer. So I realized that it was too much to do in one summer, and I decided to drop the hardest and most demanding of my three online classes. I followed the procedure to apply for a refund for the online class well before the deadline to drop classes, and left it at that.

Fast forward a week later. I checked my account for my summer classes and noticed that I haven't yet been refunded for my online class. Odd, I thought. I looked over things again and realized something: I applied to get a refund for the online class, but I didn't 'drop' the class in my student account... meaning that I was still registered for the class, still expected to pay tuition and fees, and already days late for the drop deadline (with tuition refund). I figured this out, had a panic attack, called my boyfriend and sobbed on the phone, went to the living room and sobbed to my family, and when I was done sobbing my stresses away I came straight to my computer to blog about it.

So I had 3 options:

a) Pray like a maniac and beg beg beg the registrar's office to remove my class without me having to pay the full tuition fees (which comes to $400),

b) Quit the part-time retail job and work my butt off to pass all 3 classes and still TA at the university, or

c) Drop the class, pay the $400 fees, and take it as a lesson learned.

How does the story end?

I don't know yet, because this just happened to me today.

Tomorrow I'm going in to the school to grovel and cry and hope and pray that they'll let me out of this mess I've found myself in. Please pray that they'll be sympathetic to me and let me keep my money!

Burst your bubble.

Untitled, a photo by picolsphoto on Flickr.