What drives me funky is when people ask me a question/for advice...and they don't consider it. That is actually fine. It's only after when they ask me the same thing, over and over and we're just going around in circles. I don't know..maybe they just want to have someone to listen to them?
1) they are mainly guys, guys with low self-esteem
2) apparently i'm not a therapist
3) when they are non-christian, I have even less to say because we have a huge chunk that isn't in common
maybe it's my time to share the gospel with them?
but you know what's annoying?
You try to be a good reflection of Jesus, you care about people because you love them. But I as a girl will not go spending extra time talking to a guy about his esteem problems (that I cant even help him with). And also cause I don't want to lead him on.
So what am I supposed to do? Tell him to see a therapist? I did.
Tell him to hang out with his guy friends? I did, and he has few.
How am I supposed to act like Jesus when I have to tell someone to back off, cause I can't help him and I can't be some crutch he leans on?
I think you did really well in telling him to see a therapist and in telling him to hang out with guy friends. As a student in some counselling classes at the moment, one thing my teachers keep telling me is that as someone trying to help others you need to know how much you can and can't help. The second step is making your limitations clear, and the third step is helping them find someone/something that can help where you can't.
ReplyDeleteI don't think that being like Jesus means helping to solve all of this guy's problems. Jesus acted out of love in everything that He did and you can do the same by being a prayer warrior, telling them about Jesus and how much He loves him, and helping this guy find help (and it doesn't have to be just from a therapist, but maybe from an older male model like a pastor or something).
All I can say is keep being patient and keep sharing Jesus' love to him/them! And keep praying for both them (that they'll allow God to change their lives) and you (that you'll be able to help with all that God has given you!)